I Am Fourteen And My Dad Has Cancer

I Feel Almost Lost And Alone, I Am Not Entirely Sure How To React, We Know That He Could Die In Either A Couple Months Or If The Best Case In Scenario Happens Two Years. As You Can Guess That Isn't Exactly The Best New, I Suppose That My Dad Has Lived A Good Life. But I Can't Help But Feel Dreadful About His Passing, Having Already Been Suffering With Both Bad Moods And Being Very Anxious About Everything Prior. This Kind Of Added. I Can't Help But Feel As Though He's Leaving Too soon, But I Suppose That He Is Sixty Two, So Thats A Relatively Long Life To Live. My Dad Was Also Sick Around 8 Years Ago, Which Sounds Like A Long Time, Although It Feels As Though It Was Extremely Recent. He Had Double Neunomia, I Am Not Sure If my Spelling Of That Was Entirely Accurate, He Was Thought To Have Meant To Pass Away Then. But Luckily He Did Not... He Has Been The fittest He's Ever been In Old Age Than He Had Ever Been Before, According To Himself That Is. I Am Not Particuarly Syre How To Cope With This In A Healthy Mannor.

  • Hi there ...

    So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment.... and your so young ... I'm going to ask [@Moderator Ben]‍  or any @ask the nurses .... if they could come on and give you some numbers and organisations that you can talk to on a one to one basis ...

    There are places where you can get councilling as you really need to be able to chat to someone while you are going through so much ... life is so unfare ... @Lucie  may be able to help to ... so please keep in contact ... someone will get back to you ... Chrissie....

  • Hello V0I0OL0E0T

    I'm so very sorry to hear about your dad's diagnosis. It's obviously an incredibly difficult time for you all and as [@Chriss]‍ mentioned in her post to you, we can certainly give you some advice and signposting about where you can access support. 

    I'm guessing that you're due to go back to school within the next week or so and I'd really encourage you to speak to one of your teachers or the support staff about what is happening. They will be able to support you at school then and will likely have access to counselling support as well so that you can talk to someone. If you don't feel that you're able to talk to them then maybe you, or someone in your family, could send them an email this week before you go back to face to face lessons. 

    I'd recommend having a look at this website for an organisation called Hope Support Services or maybe this website for The Osborne Trust. They are both charities that support young people like yourself who have a parent that has been diagnosed with cancer. 

    If you feel that you'd like to talk to someone about how you're feeling at any time then you can always give Childline a call. They also offer online 1-to-1 counselling. 

    I hope that this information helps and I'm glad that you reached out and shared the news with the community here. There are lots of people who will be able to support and help you through the coming months and beyond. Keep talking to your family and to those around you. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator