How to stay sane - struggling with daughter's diagnosis

Hi all. My daughter had an operation to remove part of her thyroid recently and I am slightly freaking out. As a parent, how do you cope? I've taken a week off work but I've done nothing but cry since the diagnosis which was fairly close to the operation itself. She is coping better than me but I am not coping during meetings and sometimes have to excuse myself as I randomly start crying which I realise, helps no one. I'm really struggling with the resentment of why her and wanting to be available to her at all times day/night.

Thanks

  • Hi there ...

    I know that feeling .... I had it years ago when my 14 year old son was diagnosed with diabetes... and I found out if he went low in sugar suddenly, he could die .... over the first few months I even sat outside his bedroom , listening to him breath ... I was crying all the time ... untill my son said he could handle the diabetes but not seeing me cry all the time ....  

    So I gave myself a slap, and started to do my homework on diabetes and how to keep him safe ... that was 25 years ago when things were a lot different ... I realised to cry every day was a day waisted .. so I filled my time so I didn't think to much ...

    Now you will help your daughter if you can do the same ... you helped her walk .. you took her to school .. and helped her through her teenage years ... now you have to be that mum one more time ... it's o.k to both admit it's scary ... and share tears .. but then you need to get your boxing gloves on ready to help her fight in her corner ... it's not easy ... but you can do this ... you can let out all those emotions on here ..   lots of us have been where you are now ... but that's what us mum's do ... 

    You don't say her age ... but I'm guessing she's quite young ... they are stronger then we think ... but they are always our babies ... so we will hold their hands always ... sending you a vertual hug from one mum to another ......   Chrissie x