Hello Jocy and welcome to Cancer Chat! 

It's so nice of you to want to be there to support your dear friend and I am so sorry to hear that she has incurable cancer. I thought I would share with you some resources on our website that will help you not only be there for your friend on an emotional and practical level but also look after yourself which is also really important when you are trying to be there for your friend. You can read more about this on this section of our website which is designed for family, friends and caregivers. 

I will now let our members come and share their own personal experiences and I am sure that they will have some good tips for you to help you find the best possible ways to be there for your friend during this difficult time. You seem to be a very caring person so the best thing you can do really is just to carry on being a great friend for her, just being yourself and showing that you care and that you are there for her if she needs to talk. 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Lovely and thank you so much for pointing me in the right direction. I've had a little read and already feel a lot more knowledgable towards helping my friend. It's how I cope too  is also a huge worry for my family but we are all open about it with lots of opportunities to chat things over.  I wanted to have some ideas of what I can do to without stepping over any lines. Thank you.