Hi there ...

So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment.... but in thinking of your children too at this time is amazing ... I'm just trying to write something for parents to do just that .. but I'm sure it will be a few months in getting it ready ... 

This is a couple of things I've found ... at their ages 12 and 10, they will pick up on things and I think they need gentle honesty and if they ask something try to be as honest as you can without the big details .. if you make them feel included, they will more then likely be able to cope ... 

I've found children grieve differently from adults ... they can cry and feel upset ... then a little later do "normal things" like their brain, won't let them feel sad for too long .. and I think your right sharing tears together gives them the right to cry or feel sad and know it's o.k to show feelings ...

They could later, make a memory book ... with pictures they choose ... and write a little memory of that photo beside it .. so years later they can look and 're read what it meant ... and anything like a piece of something of your mum's to put in there to remember .. so it all goes into a memory box ...

Always talk about her ... she's part of all of you ... so keep her tucked up safely in your hearts and take her along with you all ... talk about good or funny memories ... always ... my boys still talk about their nan, my mum 30 years on ... and they tell their children how amazing she was ... 

So hope you all hold on together and your mum will be very proud of her little family ... Chrissie x

Thank you for this.