Hello Jenny

I'm sorry to hear about your mother in law's diagnosis. It sounds like it's an incredibly difficult time for you all. 

Have you spoken to your partner about this? I wonder if he may be able to teach you some simple phrases and words that could help you communicate the basics with her. Alternatively creating something like a picture board may help you to communicate. 

I sometimes think that what we say isn't always the most important part of a conversation but that often, even when people don't understand the content of what is being said, they do understand the emotion behind it. If the silence that you've mentioned is something new that's developed between you then go back to talking to her as you would have before she became ill. 

I'm sure that whatever way you find to talk with your mother in law and however you help her at this difficult time, she will appreciate it. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator