Hi there ...

You don't say why or what your husband has ... I'm thinking must be some sort of cancer as your writting here ... but a lot depends on those circumstances are ... what cancer / treatment is he going through .. 

I've been on both sides of cancer , and for me, it's harder watching someone I love go through this ... what ever it is, you have to look after you to .. take some time for you ... you still need to do "normal things" like t.v or smile about something ... but cancer can be the hardest thing we go through .... it does take a lot out of us, as it can be really scary ... 

It also helps to talk ... come here and you can chat or vent or ask advice ... your not alone ... but it's hard to answer on so little information.... but hope you get others who may be able to help more ... you can also phone the nurses on here or go on McMillan site and get their number ... I called them when I was finding it hard going ... Chrissie.....

Hi ...

Well I'd go by what he was like before diagnosis ... if he was grumpy then .. it's just made it more noticeable... if he's changed and more irritable or angry ... I'd say it's what he's going through mentally .. he's looking at a huge question mark .. jumping into the unknown ... 

A lot of us say it's like being on the scariest rollercoaster... highs of hope and crashing lows of overwhelming dispair and its really scary ....not knowing when or if we'll get off that ride ...

But saying that .. it is not an excuse to take it out on you ... I'd say when he starts take yourself out the way ... I know that's hard right now .. but even a walk or ride in the car .. tell him you will not be a post for him to yell at ... or be crule ... try not to loose your temper or yell .. understand why he's scared ... but in taking your self out the situation he will learn like a naughty child ... tantrums get him no where ... but soon as he's calm, listen and empathise... tell him you can understand this is scary for him .. and you'll help him through if he gives you a little space too and not take it out on you .. 

It's all about listening ... understanding it's hard on both of you .... then holding on together .. but not to have blasts of getting at you ... it's so hard now with lockdown ... but come on here and share when it gets hard ... your not alone ... Chrissie x