Making Memories

Hi

This is my first post. I have just discovered a few days ago that my mum has been diagnosed with liver cancer and probably only has months left. The nurse I spoke to told me that I should be making memories with her sooner reather than later whist she is still well enough. 

I am looking for some advise and support. Please help.

What sort of things can I do in lockdown? How can I do things without breaking down in tears and upsetting her? How do I help my dad who is in denial? 

Any advise, support, sugestions will be greatfully recieved.

I just feel numb at the moment but want to do the best I can for her.

Thank you

  • Hello neverknowwhattoput

    I'm sorry to hear about your Mum's diagnosis. Understandably it's a difficult time for you all at the moment and with the current national lockdown things seen to be much more intense for many people. 

    Obviously, it's difficult to get out with your Mum but I wondered if there were things in the house that the two of you could do or that you could include your Dad in as well. Things such as is there a favorite film that your Mum has that you could watch together? What about arranging an afternoon tea to be delivered to the house or spending some time together going through family photos. It may be that there are parts of your Mum's life that you don't really know much about and you want to talk about those times over a cuppa. 

    Undoubtedly there may be a few tears as well. It's to be expected and a natural part of everything that you are all going through at the moment. Try not to worry too much nor to make too big a deal out of them if you do become upset. You may find that those moments bring you and your Mum closer. 

    If you'd like to talk things through with one of our team of nurses you're most welcome to give them a call. They're available Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm on 0808 800 4040. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator