My dad told me had a problem one night, but not to worry going to see him yet as I couldn't do anything til he had another doctors appt   I went next day anyway -First thing he wanted was a hug!  A few days later I find out from an A&E doctor he had been diagnosed over a year before but not wanted to worry me.  That is dad's for you. He was trying to find a good time but left it until it was almost too late.  I would say my dad had reached a stage where he realised he had needed someone. Can you visit at all?  I had a 6 hour round trip so had been visiting but did not see him every day,. So he had gone for bone scans and everything all on his own.  That still troubles me. He was all alone with no help, in pain and a bit scared at the time I realised. I wish I had known and spent more time with him, understanding, because now he's gone I'm thinking about him everyday and about what I didn't do.

Hi, I'm sorry for your lose Daisy. You words have really helped me. I've spoken to him over the last few days, just lighthearted conversations. It's clear he is struggling also and doesn't want to burden anyone but he has agreed to meet me and his granddaughter between Christmas and New Year. I can't wait to give him a huge cuddle and let him know I am here anytime night or day. We still have time to make a few more memories and this I am very grateful for, many don't get that chance. Like you I'd have wished he'd have told me sooner so we could face this together. I'd have been even more heartbroken than I am if he'd had said nothing to me. We've always been a team and although we don't see each other for months on end we talk almost everyday putting the world to rights. Thank you for replying.