Family Diagnosis - Advice Needed

Hi All

My mother in law has just been diagnosed with ovarian cancer and I was just hoping for a little advice, I'll refer to her as T if that's OK! The diagnosis has taken us all by surprise, T is in her 70s and she started feeling poorly two weeks ago but up until that point she was symtompless, pretty healthy and even still working!

T lives alone at the moment and will be until at least April/May next year when her daughter returns from working overseas. My husband and I live approx 3 and a half miles from T and have been supporting and assisting her more or less daily since she became unwell.

We know the road ahead is long and that we will need to continue assisting her on a daily basis however, although the distance isn't monumental, it's already proving difficult to get to her everyday when we both work full time, therefore we are considering moving T closer to us to allow us to offer a better level of care.

T is currently renting privately and it dawned on us that we may struggle to find a private landlord that will offer her a tenancy when she is on long term sick and reduced pay. Does anyone have any experience of a similar situation?

We will also reach out to the council however, we've never dealt with them on a housing perspective so not sure if T would be given any priority. We also have to factor in that her daughter will be living with her again once she returns to the UK and we don't know whether the council would be willing to consider that when looking at housing options for T.

Sorry for the long rambling post but any advice would be greatly received!

Thanks in advance

  • Hello Aayla

    I'm sorry to hear about your mother in law's diagnosis. Understandably it's a difficult time for you all. 

    I hope that you've been able to speak to someone in your local council about possible housing options. I wondered if you might find it useful to speak to Macmillan as they have advisors who may be able to offer advice and information about finances and welfare rights. It may be that they have some useful information for you. 

    Another option that you may want to talk to your mother in law about, if moving proves to be difficult or not feasible, is arranging some support for her at home. It may be that by having care or support provided through the week that it makes things easier for you all. Again Macmillan may be able to offer you some advice on your options in this area. 

    I hope that you're able to find an arrangement that works for you all and that her treatment goes as smoothly as possible. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator