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Kellylc
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Hi all, 

I am new here. I just feel I need to talk to someone as I'm feeling scared. 
 

This year alone has just been absolute rubbish for us all and to top it off when you think things cannot get worse, they do. My husband has been diagnosed with kidney cancer abs they have also found it in the lung. Our world has just come crashing down. I'm finding it really hard to deal with. My poor husband already had a stroke in 2014 which in the doctors words, my husband was lucky to be alive. 6 years on, we get this devastating news. We have been together for 17 years, married for 15 years and have a son who is 6. I just keep crying, not in front of my son as I want to shield him as much as possible but I'm struggling. 
 

im working full time and looking after both my son and hubby and I'm just tired, scared, worried etc. I'm worried about what of something happens to me, who will look after them both. Are these feelings normal? 
 

my husband is my world and I couldn't imagine life without him. I k ow I have to keep it together and remain strong for everyone but it's so hard. 
 

thanks for reading xx

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    Hello Kellyic,

                        l realise just how hard life is for you at this time,and how your emotions are being pulled in so many different directions,so when you ask if your reelings are normal,they absolutely are and more,unless you happen to be a mad phsycopathic circus juggler.Remember there maybe only one cancer patient,but many casulties of this hideous affliction,and right now you are the one having to man the defences.

    Being strong is not about bottling up emotions whilst you soldier on,you need an outlet to release these,and strength comes from acknowledging this and seeking help and counselling allowing you to do so. It is no weakness but practical and sensible to allow you to function and continue to move forward.This forum may prove a help,but l would really reccommend contact with your nearest Maggies Centre,they helped me so much to help myself.

                                                           Sorry but these words seem so little to offer one that is having to face so much devastation and uncertainty,and knowing that you have little choice but to keep going.Please do not be any harder on yourself than is necessary,you have a long hard journey in front of you and all your reserves will be called into play.l hope you reach a happier destination and that your husbands treatment is a success,

                         take good care of you,

                                                              David

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    Hello [@Kellylc]‍, On May the 14th 2019 my hubby received the news he has  advanced kidney cancer and spots on the lungs our world fell apart (as we had been told by our gp slight problem with kidney) he had his kidney removed in June 2019 and has been on immunotherapy ever since, and doing ok, sadly the immunotherapy has stopped working but is starting on a new immunotherapy tablets in 2 weeks time, please take care of yourself in the first few months I couldn't have coped without this site there are many many helpful people here billygoat gave me strength and hope where I could only see despair and loss my hubby is doing so much better than he was a year ago

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