Hi there,

I am no expert, but I really want to say I think you are doing an amazing job. Working? Healthy cooking? Strong and positive? In a pandemic?! Are you a superhero?? That is how I see you and I bet that's how your partner sees you. What you are going through is incredibly difficult, of course you are going to feel the strain. No one, especially your partner, expects you to be superhuman. Perhaps some helpful tips to get you through this difficult period? (and you will get through this). Have you tried calling Macmillan? They were unbelievably helpful for me, and because they are abreast of the subject matter, they really are supportive. They could also point you in the right direction of any extra help you could receive? Also, try writing a few lines in a diary, for you personally. I am no good at writing, but a nurse suggested I draw my feelings and it really really does help. When your really good at it, you switch to gratitude which does wonders for your mental health. And finally from me (something that's really helped me), I jot down things I want to achieve daily. Now these are not necessarily big or challenging things, but it converts my stress and worry into problem solving and logical task completion. I find this extremely helpful when I am overwhelmed with emotions - it converts the stress.

I am so sorry you and your partner have to go through such an incredibly difficult thing, after everything else it must seem relentless. But remember, you are not alone and the fact it was detected so young and she's going through treatment is a miracle in itself.

Take care superhero, and do feel free to scrap any suggestions that are unhelpful for you