my mother's breast cancer

 Hello, lovely people. 

 I am currently 22 years old and had to face my mother's cancer diagnosis in late August. I was miserable, since we are very close and connected and I can't imagine her leaving me yet. 

 She's undergone a surgery in September and although her prognosis seems quite good (hormone positive, low mitotic rate, one one micrometastasis in her sentinel lymph node - stage 1B) I am so scared for her. She's 60 years old and since she's postmenopausal woman her doctor said that the chemotherapy is not necessary - she had oNcotype DX test done and her score was 6 (which means no apparent benefit from chemotherapy), the risk of distant metastases in the next 9 year is said to be 11%. I know there's 89% chance that she's healthy, but I am so anxious, because I've seen my aunt dying from breast cancer when I was younger and I wouldn't be able to watch my mother go through this, because I love her too much. 

She's getting hormone therapy and biphosphonates and that's all. I know now would be the time to feel relieved, but I am not and I don't think she is either. I am so anxious and going through such a weird period in my life. What should I do, because I am scared of those 11 percents... And I also don't know how should I be with her, what to say... I am a student in a medical feild and try to explain everything to her, want her to be positive... But I think she's just as terrified as I am, even though she says she knows it's going to be fine. 

  • Hi Dianevictoria

     

    Sorry to read about your mum, of course, your worried, it's only natural but from what I have read your mum is stage 1B, which means it has been caught early and very treatable. Hormone therapy has proved to have a great success rate in preventing recurrence/spread and the biphosphonates will help her bones, both from fractures/osteoporosis. 

    Your mum is not a statistic so I would try not to get hung up about them. Regardless of her past disease, she's still the same mum you had before the disease so treat her as you normally would, I would hate for my family to define me by some cancer I had. I think the best thing you can do for your mum is helping her move on and enjoy her life. Same goes for you. x

  •  Thank you for your kind words!

     Wishing you all well. x