Hello. I'll try and keep this short
February 2020 my partner was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. They said incurable, 1-2 years to live. He had 4 rounds of chemo and 5 rounds of immunotherapy and treatment stopped in July because the cancer had become aggressive in his lymph nodes and begun spreading to his liver.
Docs put him forward for a clinical trial in September which involved surgery to remove some of the cancer tissue from his lung. After surgery his lung collapsed and he was hospitalised for 9 days.
As it happens he wasn't eligible for the trial. They couldn't get what they needed from his tissue.
since then all his cancer symptoms have disappeared spontaneously. No pain, reduced all pain meds to minimum, shortness of breath improving. Energy improving. The docs are baffled and a scan has showing shrinkage everywhere. His lymph nodes were causing him the most pain and protruding from his neck in September, now they're not visible or painful at all. A miracle you might say.
he is only 32, we have two small children aged 7 and 3. And cancer-wise he's doing really well.
however it seems his mental health is now affected. It's not something that's ever affected him before but he has been through so much it's unsurprising.
he stays in bed most of the day, hardly eats, he's very angry over the slightest of things and taking it out on me mostly and sometimes the children. He is a far cry from the person he was a year ago and I think that's what is affecting him the most, a year ago he was fit, healthy, exercised regularly, ran to work and back.
I just don't know where to start to get him some help. I think some counselling would be beneficial. Talking to someone that isn't me. He has some really good days but then some really bad days and it is also affecting me emotionally now. I feel really sad all the time.
how can I get him the help that he needs? He won't do it off his own accord.
