Hi there ..so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment... and I'm sure your feeling a bit overwhelmed at the moment ...

Like you I'm in the middle of loosing people to cancer ... so we have a lot of young ones in our family .. I'd just like to say, if your daughter is expressing her feelings, that's good ... so many young ones hold it in as they are scared and don't want to upset others ... she may have lots of questions ... if so, be gently honest.... and only give as much info as they ask for ... if your feeling overwhelmed,  just imagine being her age ... honestly just listening and sharing tears to let her know that's o.k .. and it's o.k to admit your both scared ... is there a way she can face time her nan on what's ap ... that's what we did with my granddaughter who had acute myeloid leukaemia... when she was in hospital .. it's a true life line ..

Just remember too ... your only human ... not superwoman ... and like you , I try to hold everyone up .. but we still need a hand to hold and a shoulder to cry on ... and that's o.k ..  sadly there's no manual on this .. no instructions ... it's taking everything one day at a time ... don't keep looking ahead ... make the most of today while they are here ...

I'm struggling a tad too .. then I read this thread and know I'm not alone feeling like this ... so let's both have a good cuss .. yell and cry ... and knowing life is not fare ... but it is what it is ... so after letting emotions out ... let's get back on board to care for others ... but any time you feel overwhelmed... you let it out .. as long as it's not in the middle of tescos ... sorry I have a wicked sense of humour ..

But use any time you have to make a few more memories .. don't have to be big ones ... just simple things ... and remember your daughter will take a lot from this time in her life that she will take with her .. and later down the line you'll be proud of how you helped her through , holding each other's hand ..

Sending you a vertual hug.... Chrissie xx

Thank you Chrissie for your lovely words. I am so sorry to hear about your Grandaughter and how you and your family are struggling too.

I think letting it out really does help sometimes and also being able to join these forums and knowing that you are not alone. The factime suggestion is a really good idea I am sure doing that will help boost my daughter and my Nan too.

I wish you all the best and am sending you a virtual hug back. Jenny xx

Jenny, sorry to hear your terrible news. My Mum has terminal lung cancer and I am also trying to cope. I have tried everything and honestly I can say you literally have to take each day as it comes. Mum was sent home from hospital after a terrible infection 2 months ago with 6-8 weeks to live. She has now started chemotherapy and is walking around and doing well. We never know what will happen. There have been terrible days and great days. We can never plan and can't look too far ahead. We just have to try to be present on that day.

If you have not yet tried meditation, then give it a go, I can recommend some apps but it keeps me present and grounded.

Sending love xxx

Hi Faye, thank you for your message and the advice about mediation. A friend of mine also mentioned that too and said it helped her a lot so I will definitely look into that. I am sorry to hear about your Mum it must be very hard for you. She sounds like a strong lady and it is nice to hear she is doing well. 

Take care xx