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I'm new here, first post. My Wife is upstairs feeling sick again so having a rest. August last she had a seizure whist out with a chum in a coffee shop. From there a tumour was diagnosed and removed. Unfortunately the biopsy result identified it as grade 4 glioma, incurable but treatable. We are three weeks into a six week Radiotherapy and Chemotherapy treatment. After a month off She will be on Chemotherapy only for six to twelve months. We have been married for over 30 years and do everything together. Her life expectancy is anything upto eightheen months, so I'm told. Not shared this with her. I'm here because I'm in bits and devastated. But have to be strong and support her while we are together. Can't comprehend the future alone and not looking forward to retirement together. Why is life so cruel. 

  • Hi Tony1963,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I'm so sorry to read what you are both going through - I can only imagine how incredibly difficult this is.

    I'm glad you found this forum as hopefully it can be some small form of help to you. We are always here for support and it is a safe space to write things down, share experiences, speak to others, or just vent. I can see you have commented on another thread too and if you don't receive further replies to your post here then I would encourage you to browse for other discussions to connect with others.

    Try to keep looking after yourself as much as possible too, including speaking to others such as those around you, us here on this forum, or maybe getting additional support from organisations such as Macmillan.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

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    Hi Tony,

    My God, I feel for you. I only found this forum at 3am this morning (can't sleep) after my husband was diagnosed with colorectal cancer yesterday. 

    I feel numb and helpless. Trying to keep busy but feel like im in a fog. 

    My husband doesn't want anyone to know, he reluctantly told his cousin (they grew up together) last night but he freaked out...

     

    I feel a bit guilty for feeling so sorry for myself after reading your post because we don't yet know the extent of his cancer. I'm so sorry that your wife's diagnosis is stage 4. All I can say is - use this forum . We all need know that we are not alone and it helps when others truely understand. I have a friend battleing lung cancer and he said that we have to live in the day and take one day at a time...Oh, and don't bloody google!!.... 

     

    They are operating on him in about 2 weeks, at which time we will know more of what we are up against. And it is 'we' - like you, we have been together almost 30yrs and I have no other family - no children. The thought of loosing him terrifies me but I can't say that out loud.  I ran down to the end of our garden for a cry this afternoon, came back indoor when my eyes were less puffy. 

     

    Anyway, you look after yourself and I'm sure, from what i've read, that your wife is as worried about you as you are about her. Treasure each other.

    Take care

    Ali

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