My dad is only 66, he works for the ambulance service, he's normally really fit, only in August we went for a 6 mile walk, he was running with my little boy, we were all laughing, he was the picture of fitness.
Fast forward a couple of months to the beginning of October, he feels breathless for 2 days, goes into hospital (my mum had to call an ambulance one morning as it got suddenly worse) his colleagues came to pick him up and put him on oxygen.
He's been in hospital ever since. He had a letter addressed to him from the hospital last week so my mum opened it thinking he needs to know something like an appointment. It was a letter to him from the consultant saying how he had advanced stomach cancer and it had spread. The nurse rang me today to say my dad has 3 months to live.
im devastated. I have to tell my mum. I don't know how she'll cope. She doesn't do anything for herself. Doesn't mow the lawn, do bills or any paperwork, doesn't have a clue about the internet. I don't live near her anymore and I'm just absolutely floored. The nurse was talking about my dad wanting home or hospice care and having a don't resuscitate order. I can't believe it.
I can't even take him out to places to enjoy the time he has left as it's lockdown again in 2 days.
what happens next?
my dad would do anything for me, he's been my absolute supporter in everything I've done. I've been looking at private hospitals thinking there must be something thss as t can help him somewhere. I'm in agony as I don't know where to look. I feel like I'm letting him down.
what do I do?
please help me
