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Is my boyfriend lying about testicular cancer diagnosis?

Em1234
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Hello, 

So I feel horrendous for even writing this. I got with my boyfriend is February. Within a couple of weeks he told me that he had testicular cancer but his body was fighting it. They had took a sample a year ago and was monitoring it and watching what the sample did in the labs. He said it wasn't growing so his body obviously had it under control. Around middle of March he told me the doctor had called and said it had started to develop again in this sample meaning his body was too and would need treatment. He didn't haven't anything done really and at first I blamed lockdown but then I was unsure. He had a biopsy nurse apparently come to the house and do a biopsy in his bed (I didn't know that was a thing but I'm not an expert). That was around June and that's all he has had. No scans, no more tests. 
He said that he has been told he will need it removed so is on a list but has said he only wants the lump removed because he doesn't want to take the chAnces of having kids away from me (I've tried to tell him I don't care about that right now and rather he be well). 
I feel awful for even thinking it. It's just that it's been 7 months with nothing and things just don't seem to add up. 
sorry for the long post! 

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    Hello Em1234, 

    Welcome to our forum! It's really hard to know what is really going on and I can understand why you feel that things are not very clear. It is difficult to tell one way or another whether your boyfriend is telling the truth. I hope you find out soon what is going on and whether the fact he hasn't had any scans or tests is indeed due to the current covid situation. It must be difficult for you if you feel things don't seem to add up and I hope you get a bit more clarity on all this soon. 

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

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    Hi Emma,

     

    sorry to hear about you doubting your partner, it must be a horrible situation to be in.

    have you asked yourself if there is a reason he could be lying?

     

    some services were reduced during the pandemic however most have returned to normal now, especially the diagnostic services. 
     

    sometimes one of the treatments for cancers, especially testicular can be watch and wait as you described he said. All that means is monitoring your partner and seeing if theres any changes.  
     

    From experience (a friend going through it), he received an ultrasound to see the lump and then a biopsy. To biopsy you need a masectomy of the testicle in question. This in turn would mean there may be difficulty having children in the future. However for my friend he is unable to at all due to the advance his disease was. After surgery he was then given 4/5 months of chemo, and is now on a testosterone replacement for life (injection every 2 months). Again, this does depend on the type of testicular cancer he has so maybe that would be worth asking? 
    the whole diagnostic > treatment journey however is very quick so if they have found now that it has progressed, it will be vert fast from here for him.

    i hope this helps, and i hope you and your partner are happy and healthy.

     

    all the best,

    x

     

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