Palliative care

Good evening, 

 

My dad is currently in hospital and whilst there we have had a  diagnosis of an aggressive cancer and have been told his care will be palliative, the hospital now want to see us to discuss discharge. He's gone from living relatively independently in a house to being bed bound and I expect that a care home will be the suggestion. As most of the care homes are locked down I'm heartbroken at the thought of not being able to be with him. 
 
Do you know if it would be at all possible for him to come stay in my home and have carers come through the day to help us instead?  I imagine it's a bit of selfishness on my part wanting to be with him and from a care point of view he would be looked after by more experienced people in a care home but I don't want him sad and alone at this awful time.

  • Hello Kelly25

    I'm sorry to hear about your Dad's recent diagnosis. I'm sure that it's been a difficult time for you all. 

    I would imagine that it's possible to arrange for some sort of homecare package to be put in place to support your Dad. Many people would rather be discharged to their own home to be cared for by family and it's understandable that you'd rather he didn't go into a care home given the current Covid19 visiting restrictions.

    I hope that you've been able to get things into place by now but if you'd like to speak to one of our nurses for some advice and support then you're welcome to call them on 0808 800 4040 (monday to Friday 9am to 5pm). 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator

  • Do not lose hope. Mum has terminal lung cancer stage 4, was in hospital and given Marie Curie - 8 weeks to live, she as now miraculously been able to have chemo which we thought was impossible. This may or may not give us more time with her but mind set is everything.

    Keep him positive with the best care and take each day as it comes.

    I am here if you need to talk xx