Dads cancer diagnosis

Dads been diagnosed with bowel cancer which has spread to his liver. 
I am 23, Me my dad and 3 siblings live at home they are all younger than me. We heavily rely financially on my dad as well as emotionally of course. I am still studying and finding my feet. 
I don't know who to talk to And I don't know how I can change or help my situation. Things keep breaking in our home such as the kitchen and 2 bathrooms out of 4 now not in use as we can't afford to fix things. 
I feel so guilty and awful for my dad as not only is he getting ready to start chemo but he is still getting up everyday and going to work in the cold- he is a scaffolder. I worry how he will get through the winter with chemo and working in the cold outside. I want him to try fight this as best he can. 
We don't have much always got food on the table which I am so grateful for and we have love. I just feel so helpless I am the only one that knows he isn't well at the moment in our house hold and I feel like the world is on my shoulders.
secured a really good job and opportunity and my start date is the day before my dads chemo. Everything has come round and is all happening at once. One of the showers broke today the tiles were leaking and he's unable to fix it himself. I just wish I could do more I help out as much as I can indoors dinner and cleaning. I just feel so worried and scared for future. Weve really had it tough theese past couple of years  and we just can't seem to catch a break. I feel so lost. Still managing to get up everyday and remember to be grateful for what I do have and I am i just wish my family could get a break. 

  • Hello India98

    I'm very sorry to hear about your Dad's diagnosis and the situation that you find yourselves in as a family. it sounds as if it's very difficult for you all. 

    There is some information on our website here about coping financially that may be of help but I'd also suggest giving Macmillan a call as they have a team dedicated to supporting patients with financial information. You can find more on their website here

    You mention that you're studying and I'm guessing from your post that this is at college or University. I wonder if you'd find it helpful to speak to one of the counsellors or pastoral support workers on campus. Sometimes it can help to talk to people outside of the immediate family and it sounds as if you might benefit from some support at the moment. It's something to have a think about. 

    I hope some of this information helps. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator