Hi,

My Nan is terminally ill with lung cancer and we have just been told by the specialists that we are now looking at short months. She was first diagnosed  9 months ago and I told my 12 year old at that time that Nanny had lung cancer. When my daughter asked if Nan was going to die I told her that Nan was doing ok at that point (which she was back then) but that she needed treatment and that she may become more ill. My daughter had lots of questions and we had a good chat about what was happening. 

My daughter now does not really mention my Nans cancer, however I do not know how to move forward with this since hearing the current diagnosis. I know that I will have to speak to my daughter again as my Nan starts to deteriorate but I just dont know when or how much to tell her. My daughter is close to my Nan and she is a child that worries alot and I am afraid that if I say something now or tell my daughter that Nanny is going to die that she will just become consumed by the news. She has just started secondary school and has had a bit of a rocky start so is already contending with a lot along with raging hormones! 

I know every child is different which can impact on how this kind of thing is handled but I would just be grateful to hear about other peoples experiences and how they managed it. I am so worried and upset and just want to be there for my daughter in the best way I can and and for my Nan. 

Many thanks x