Hi I've never used anything like this before but really need to talk to people who can understand. My husband was diagnosed 3 weeks ago with a malignant tumor and is due to have surgery at the end of the month. That bit doesn't worry us we are very positive the surgery will be ok and we can cope with any subsequent treatment, the problem is we have had a few negative outlooks shall we say off the medical profession he has seen and we have also had some positive but we seem to be focusing on the negative and with his personality changes (very short temper and snappy) it's really difficult. We met late in life (late 40's) and got married 6 weeks ago just before his diagnosis. 
thank you for your time xx