Should I travel to see dad who's been diagnosed with cancer?

Hi folks, I am not really expecting anyone to be able to solve my dilema, but sometimes it helps to talk to someone you have never met, so here is my problem, about 3 weeks ago my dad was diagnosed with meolethelina,he was hospitalised there and then which was a total shock, my sister and myself thought he had a chest infection or something and that the specialist would prescribe medication to make him better, then came the devestating news that dad had this incureable cancer and because of curent situations with covid, I am stuck with a majer problem, should I get the train from Scotland where I live to West Yorkshire where they live, where i could pick up and pass on the virus either from the supermarket I work in or on the train that I would need to get because my husband nor myself drive, or do I risk never seeing my dad to say goodbye, they can't say how long or short he has, please someone help, what should I do?

 

  • Thank you for your kind words, they were very reasuring, my Dad dosen't have any problem with the fact that I am 250 miles away, the problem I have is I already feel guilty that I came to Fife to my then boyfriends on holiday in 1991, after a year of seeing each other and I never returned to my home in west yorkshire, but then all concerned were 29 years younger and you don't think there may be a problem further down the line, I am just so unsure of what to do for the best, not the best for me, this isn't about me and what I want, it is what is best for my dad, he is a very proud and private man, but I so desperatly want to see him and for him to know I love him with all my heart.

  • I know this is probably totally irresponsible, but i know what i would do........