Welcome to the Cancer Chat community Mandy although I'm sorry for the reason you're joining us.

I can't begin to imagine how difficult this must be for you but I'm glad you've reached out to us as many of our members have been in this position with their loved ones so will understand what you're going through at the moment and will hopefully be along soon to offer their support and advice.

I hope this information we have for family, friends and caregivers will help but if you'd like to talk things through with one of our nurses then do give them a call on 0808 800 4040. Their phone lines are open Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m.

Kind regards,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

I'm familiar with your pain Mandy. My bf was given 2-weeks to live without any treatment at the end of March. He immediately had 3 BT's and 3 bags of chemo before coming home. His cancer had spread (pancreas, liver, lungs + brain) and with treatment he was given a 40% chance. He chose no treatment. I too felt heartbroken, complete despair. But I did understand. And I had to accept. I can't tell you how to get through this, but you somehow just do. Be there for your man to talk to when he's ready - I'm sure he will need to talk and will need to know you're supportive and want to see you coping. My bf asked me to be brave, I think maybe that gives them a little peace in their out of control new world. Your bf may of course change his mind, but whatever path he choses all we can do for those we love is all they ask of us, I believe. Sending you love + strength x