Lung cancer help and advice please

So my father in law 2 years ago had bowel cancer, he's had his bowels removed and was back to normal not long after, he's since been diagnosed with lung cancer, he's been told 18/24 months with no treatment or 3/5 years with Chemo.. 

 

pros and cons?
Would it make him poorly as the chemp with the bowels was tablets. 

 

is it worth making yourself poorly with chemo to maybe just get an extra 12 months  

 

we all have so many emotions at the min and my poor father in law has no idea what to do 

  • Hello Hough I am sorry to hear about your father.The estimated life expectancy is based only on old statistics.Dont forget each persons cancer is different and respond to the treatment differently.Even 2 people have the same cancer they are different.He doesnt have to have serious side effects.I have stage 4 breast cancer with lung mets and I am on the IV chemo since August 2019 and doing well.No real side effects.I have even returned to work in July.I know many people living for many years with cancer so please try to stay optimistic thats how I am coping

     

    Denise

  • Very sorry about your father in law. His situation is horrible, and there is no right or wrong when it comes to the trade-off between the side-effects of a treatment vs the increased life expectancy that the treatment gives.

    What the proposed chemo will be will depend on his particular cancer, as well. I expect (although I am not a medic) that it will also depend on his ability to cope with the treatment. So an important question is to know what the side effects, and risks, will be.

    I disagree slightly with Denise in that, although she is right that published statistics are often out of date, there is no reason not to accept the prognosis of your father in laws' medical team. The prognosis is always an estimate. He may very well live a longer, or shorter, time than this estimate. But they have years of knowledge, training and experience, and they know your father. They will give a prognosis accordingly.

    If you father in law agrees, family members can talk to his medical team, and ask questions, without your father in law being present. This may make it easier to ask 'difficult' questions. Then, when you have gained as much information as possible, you can help your father in law, if he wishes, make decisions regarding further treatment.   

    Wishing you all the best. Harry