My Dad’s given up

The title says it all really. My dad has been fighting (primarily) bowel cancer for a few years now. Covid meant his chemo was stopped and now he is beyond the point of no return. He's given up and he's not the man I knew. He's at the stage where he's now not getting out of bed at all and doing absolutely nothing for himself. This is the man who (20 years ago) came home from hospital after a heart attack and proceeded to dig his vegetable garden!  I suffer with crippling anxiety and seeing him this way is so hard. I understand that he's really struggling but I just don't know where to go from here?

  • Hi there ...

    So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment.... it's one of the hardest things we go through in life.... 

    But as someone on their cancer journey , I don't think he's given up... he's just accepting, he can't fight any more ... it sounds like he's been amazing and boxed his way through a couple of years ... it takes it out of us ... sometimes the path wer on is just too steep to climb ... he's done his best ...

    He helped you walk as a baby, and watched you grow from a child to a woman ... helping you along the way ...  now its time to let him take the lead and hold his hand on this last journey hes taking ...

    Leave nothing unsaid ... share tears ... ask him about his life... I'm sure there's lots you don't know... tell him it's o.k ... be proud of the fight he put up ... try not to ask more then he can give ... that way he'll have a little control back , that cancer took away ..

    You won't loose him ... he'll stay safely wrapped up in your heart, where you can take him with you, on your journey through life.... I know my mum has stayed in my heart ... sending you a vertual hug.... Chrissie x