Carer of terminal bowel cancer, peritoneal and liver mets

I dont know how to cope anymore. My husband is the sweetistman. We have been together 33yrs after both coming out of abusive marriages. Everyone remarks on how happy we are. He is like a different person at the moment. Moody and nasty. During covid lockdown my whole family stuck by the rules. Unfortinalely they found sports on his liver. It means I wont be not be able to see my grandchildren for a further 26 weeks. I have fibro. I am so depressed watching him and not seeing anyone. Is it unreasonable to suggest the week he does not take chemo we go to the park and meet the grandchildren. Keeping socially distance. Would that be to much of a risk to him. We were gloves masks we use wipes and sanitiser.  Than u. 

  • Hello Eimhin, 

    I am so sorry to hear about your husband and it must be so hard for you to have to live with these constant mood swings and to feel like he is a totally different person at the moment. It must be really hard for you especially having to go through this with the current situation with covid. 

    We have detailed information on our website on this page on coronavirus and covid - in particular the information on shielding here will be of interest to you. Unless you happen to live in an area that has gone back into lockdown, shielding is paused in England, Scotland and Northern Ireland for extremely vulnerable people - (In Wales, shielding will be paused tomorrow on the 16th August 2020). It is important though to still observe social distancing and you seem to be well equipped with the masks and sanitisers. I bet it would do you both so much good to meet the grandchildren in the park. I would suggest though just to be extra sure that you give your GP a call on Monday and double check this with them as they will have all your medical records and details of your husband's and your conditions.

    I hope this helps a little and that things improve for your husband. 

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator