Mum going to hospice

My mum was diagnosed with Bowel cancer last year she had major bowel resection and came through with flying colours. In October she was diagnosed with a hernia due to the operation scaring. It makes her look 9 months pregnant. We then found out in March her cancel had returned. Because she is 87 there was chance of a second operation or chemotherapy as she was not strong enough. She has slowly become weaker and weaker. Last Sunday she had sickness and diarrhoea and upto Thursday night had nothing to eat so I made the decision to call our GP and our local hospice as he is under their care. They decided to admit her to hospital on Friday because of covid19 none could go with her. It broke my heart to say goodbye. I have heard today that the cancer has spread to her liver and to an artery. They are starting her on dexamethasone. They are contacting the hospice to have her admitted. My heart is breaking as I wish I had never phoned the GP as I fear we will never be able to see her again. I'm not sure I will ever forgive myself. I am broken.

  • My mum was died in a hospice in the beginning of March this year due to a brain tumour, just before the lockdown was in place. I cannot imagine what it must be like to not be able to be with your mum, but know that the nurses and staff there are honestly amazing - they really do care and will definitely make sure your mum is comfortable and free from pain. I know this probably won't soften the pain you are feeling right now and  I am so sorry this has happened to you, your mum and all your family/friends. Its not fair. Sending you my love