Hi there ...

So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment.... but in feeling like this , you will miss out on every day you have with him, and you'll look back and feel even sadder ... I know this as we've had a few diagnosis like this ... and how we coped as a family was, to take each day as it comes.. and try to fill it with love and laughter ... looking back at photos... listening to each other .. leaving nothing unsaid , no matter how hard some things are to hear ...

No one healthy or with any life limiting condition knows if we have tomorrow... it can take anyone ... I know it's not fare .. but you had a wonderful love, even for a shorter time .. but so many never find that love , ever ... so no more what ifs ... no more looking to far ahead ... live in the day ... and take each one as a moment in time, that you can make loving memories ... too many feel so scared and can't think of anything else except the future ... don't let cancer take away your remaining time ...

We have a few on here, that were given terminal diagnosis ... they made every day count .. [@davek]‍   and [@Billygoatt]‍   ... both are pushing those boundaries... it's not about winning or loosing, it's about holding on together ... and grabbing the days wer given ... 

I had a grade 3 breast cancer,  and that's how I take every day ... I wake up, look up to the sky ... and say yep I'm here today ... and every day I try to find something that makes me smile ... you can do this ... sending you a vertual hug.... Chrissie xx

Hi Geena

I am just like you, my husband who is 45 was diagnosed on Thursday with a rare cancer of the thymus gland and lungs - heptoid adenocarcinoma. They said its not curable or operable. He starts chemo next Wednesday. Being told that news was brutal and being given no hope by the oncologist was unforgivable.

To say we are in shock is an understatement. Like you I waited all my life to meet him and we got married 2 years ago. He is my rock and the most kindest, gentlest soul. 

I'm devastated and struggling to keep it together but watching the pain on his face trying to digest the news is the worst. I don't know what to say to him. He has become so quiet and withdrawn. 

I would love someone to advise how to cope with consoling my husband. 

I'm so sorry you are going through this.

Grainne