Hi Mallcop, 

Sorry to hear about your dads diagnosis. Sending you and your whole family strength during this time.

How is your dads symptoms at the moment, is he in any pain? If he is the specialist will provide him with pain relief to help him.

Here if you want to chat more.

Amy x

Hi Amy 

He has pain in his back. ( morphine is helping ) dramatic Wight loss and seems to have constipation. The doctor has told us that it has spread in to both kidneys bladder liver and they think in to his bones. Its also round his cavity. 

He is still alert but I can tell hes scared. He asked what it'd like to die. ( hiw do you answer that) 

Many thanks for taking the time to read this 

Peter 

Hi Peter,

Good to hear your Dads back pain is under control.

I was never asked that question, however my answer would be if that time comes the doctors will make it comfortable, no pain. Very peaceful. Upsetting question for your dad and everyone. 

My Dad seemed scared at the beguinning, saying he feels like hes hanging of a cliff side.

When it came close to the end he seemed to be at peace with the situation and passed away in hospital due to Pneumonia caused my stage 4 pancreatic cancer.

Amy x

Hi

my Dad was diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer 3 weeks ago after being given the all clear last year, they have not given a time frame and he is taking oral morph since yesterday as his pain is really bad in his back, he has what he says feels like trapped gas but it doesn't go, he lost blood last week but they could not find where it came from, I'm concerned his symptoms are starting to get worse already does anyone know the average time scale so I can try and prepare if that is at all possible I am heartbroken and just want to be with him all the time, although he wants to carry on as normal. I am also a recovering alcoholic who wants to do all I can to keep myself sane at this time too, to keep my self on the straight and narrow I've been without drink for 3 and half years, I do not feel like I would ever go back however I know great sadness can trigger all sorts so I just want to be be prepared. Thank you in advance for any help x

Hello JodiC, 

I am so sorry to hear about your dad. It must be so hard for you to have to watch him go through all this again after being given the all clear last year. There is a section on our website here on Dying with Cancer which contains helpful information to help you prepare for the weeks and days ahead and also to help you look after yourself too during this difficult time. 

Well done for managing to be without a drink for 3 and a half years - this is an incredible achievement and if you ever feel worried about it or need any expert advice on this to help you carry on drink free as you have been doing during these extremely challenging times, don't hesitate to contact these organisations for advice:

Drinkline (The National Alcohol Helpline): 

03001231110 (Weekdays 9am-8pm, weekends 11am-4pm) 

Alcohol Change UK: 

0203 9078480 

www.alcoholchange.org.uk   

Stay strong JodiC! We're all here for you anytime you need support from others who understand what you are going through at the moment. 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Thanks for youre reply Amy. He seems more at ease now. As a family we are just so devastated  my partner has taken it really hard. She has always loved my dad just as much as his own children. He was always the strong one tbe one who looked after everyone we just can't believe it. We are jjst trying to get him comfortable and happy as we can in the time we have left 

Thanks Peter 

Hi Jodi,

It's different for everyone. My dads was stage 4 pancreatic cancer. He was told weeks to months. He passed away after 3 months from diagnosis.

Deeply sorry about your dads diagnosis. 

Hear if you want to chat.

Amy x

Hi Mallcop,

Sorry to hear about your dad, I too am in the same heartbreaking situation.  My dad was diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer nearly 5 months ago.  We don't know how long as didn't get a biopsy.. He has put a brave fight on but this last week he is hardly getting out of bed, not talking.  Eating is very little.  I try to keep myself busy but cry most nights as it is horrible watching my dad deteriorate.. they keep upping his tablets as the pain gets worse.. I feel there is nothing I can do to help.. I feel like i have lost my dad already

Hi [@Lockie]‍ and [@mallcop]‍ 

How are your dads doing?

My dad was diagnosed with Pancreatic cancer in June. He had been having issues since Jan or possibly before (he is never one to complain). Doctors told us he had 50% chance of making it to Christmas but palliative care have told us recently that they don't think he'll make it to Halloween. His appetite has lessened even more the past few days and I'm trying to prepare myself for what is to come.

Can anyone tell me what their experience was? I know everyone is different but was your loved one talking one day and then gone the next? In some ways I wish I knew the date that he would be gone! 
 

x