So my mum was diagnosed with mouth cancer on Friday. 

She is seeing a specialist on Tuesday and then going in for surgery on the 6th July. 

She has been very reticent to tell me anything. I only found out 2 weeks ago that she had even had a biopsy. 

I am trying to be supportive. 

My mum said that she is on strict quarantine up until her OP which means that I cant help her or see her before she goes in. I am beside myself. Shes going to be in hospital for 7-10 days after the surgery and again I cant see her - i can't send anything to her either. 

The surgery will remove most of her jaw and a number of lymph nodes so it sounds like it is going to be quite an aggressive surgery. 

My mum is 61. I hate this. 

I have become the parent and she has resorted to becoming the rebellious teenager. Her consultant has said that she is not to smoke. I am telling her not to smoke. My brother is allowing her to smoke (because she is stressed) and my mum is smoking because she is worried. I'd go round to her house to grab all of them and destroy all of them if I could, but i cant because i cant go round. 

All i want to do is see my mum again. In person. Before she goes in. 

Is anyone else going through this? Do you think that the rules will be relaxed further by 6th July??