Hi all,

my friend has been diagnosed with terminal bone cancer just two weeks ago. Originally they thought it was sciatica, then they found a mass, which was determined as not sinister, then she had a hip operation, and now she's been told she's dying. It's been a horrendous and agonozing 12 months for her, she's trying intensive chemo to see if they can reduce the tumours to make her more comfortable and maybe give her additional time.

the process has been so slow until the last two weeks, where she was tested, diagnosed and hospitalised within a 10 day period.

I can only communicate with texts at the minute, she's understandably not ready to talk just yet. But I'm finding myself texting the same things and I'm worried she won't feel supported. 
having said that, I'm desperate for this not to be about me. I just want to make sure she's getting the support she needs at the time she needs it. 

its difficult to know how not to put any pressure on but at the same time let her know that I'm there whenever she needs me. 
 

we are helping as much as we can with her kids (as much as the social distancing will allow) and a meal rota is in place which the family are all so grateful for, but it doesn't feel enough. 
 

my friend has admitted she's petrified and in shock, is struggling mentally and physically, and I'm not sure how to help. 
 

Any suggestions are very much appreciated. And I hope you all stay safe xxx