Hello Chequer

I'm sorry that you're in this situation and ultimately you will make your decision based on a mix of factors, emotional, financial and other responsibilities. 

When my mum was in her final weeks the palliative care staff advised us that if her condition deteriorated by the week then she had weeks left and if it was deteriorating by the day then we were down to just days left. Mum stopped eating several weeks prior to passing and took no fluids in her last few days. There are resources online to guide you through what to expect in the final weeks of life if this helps you. Obviously some patients pass more quickly if there are unexpected complicating factors.

I am self employed and knew to stop work in the final few weeks would be difficult but I made my decision based on what Mum would have done if it was the other way round. My answer was she would have stopped everything to be with me every step of the way and would have given me her last penny if it helped. I was very lucky and know that not everyone's relationship is this strong. We also discussed what would happen at the end and I promised that I would be with her as she was frightened of what was to come. I think you have to consider that this is a one off, relatively brief, event in your whole lifetime and don't take any action that you would have cause to regret after she passes. 

Speak with the nursing team and your Mum then if you feel peace with your decision you know it's the right one for you.

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