Mum has terminal cancer, looking for support

Hi I'm Pete and new to the group just looking for some support, my mum has terminal cancer and only got 8 to 10 weeks to live, mum has got palliative careers in and I have seen her deteriorating it's awful one of her eyes has closed permanently and the other one she can hardly see, she is getting really confused, she can't spit her words out as her speech is now very limited, today she was confused but happy, but today was talking to her and at one point she stopped still it was scary, sadly I'm 40 in August and know my mum won't be here.

  • Hi Pete 

    My mum is dying and I chose to keep her at home with me as she lived and helped me to raise my daughter( she is almost 4 now) for the past 3 years. My mum was diagnosed with bowel cancer in 2016 while I was pregnant and didn't wanted to worry me, so the whole truth about her cancer I found out when I gave birth later that year. Her cancer spread to liver and we have been fighting it for the past 4 years, so many treatments, surgeries etc. We knew that one day it will be over, but you still believe and try to live normal life. On Easter Day my mum woke up and said that she can't feel her left arm and shortly after visit to A&E and scan they told us that she has brain tumour and metastasis in her lungs. I was so devastated and sad. Within 6 weeks she is completely disabled, can not move her body and so weak that can not open her eyes. Doctor told me that she probably has few weeks to live. I keep watching her and crying and crying it's so unfair she is 66 years old and had so many plans once she retaired.... I am 42 and my daughter will be 4 in Aug and probably won't remember her grandmother who loved her so much. I feel horrible looks like whole world is falling apart. I miss my mom already ..... stay strong Pete 

  • Hi Pete you are going through the same thing it's so dam hard as it's your mum my mum has stage 4 lung cancer small cel cancer its very hard to watch someone you love go through this all ways here bud if need a chat keep strong