Mum is now home

Hi everyone.

In my post last week I was talking about mum being in the hospice and screaming and shouting that she wanted to come home, which today she has. She has carers coming in 4 times a day but unfortunately I have had to move out because I mentally cannot cope with caring for her 24/7. 

I got her home and moved a few things around today, made notes for the carers on where things are and brought some drawers down for clothes and have put them in the front room where her bed is currently but I feel so so guilty leaving her there on her own, she seemed really upset but I've been really struggling with my own mental health recently due to my mum's illness. 

Has anybody else ever been in this situation? I will be visiting her as much as I can daily and I'm only staying 10 minutes away from home.

  • Hello Claire. 

    I'm glad to hear that you were able to arrange for Mum to come home and that support has been put in place to help care for her. I was also pleased to hear that you're looking after yourself in this situation as well. 

    It's natural to feel as you do, however you would be no use to Mum if you were to make yourself ill by struggling on with things as they were. Hopefully having your own space will help you to be able to manage your own anxieties. 

    It can sometimes help to talk these things through with someone outside the immediate family and if you'd like to chat to one of our nurses you're welcome to call them. They are available Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm on 0808 800 4040. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator