coping with my dads cancer

im 15 and my dad was diagnosed with cancer last february(when i was 14). its the worst thing for anybody to have to go through and i really dont know how to cope. he has a cancer in his stomach which is at stage 4. he was given the all clear in august but a month or two later it came back. it really upset me because he kept talking about how things would soon be back to normal, and he was so happy. he started chemo again and soon after that we were told it had spread more and was at stage 4. this was devastating as we thought it would be good news. i dont really talk to anybody about it as i dont want my parents to see me cry about it and me and my brother arent close. my mum told me that she thought he was getting worse. i hear her crying every night before she goes to bed and he never has energy and is always sick. i used to do everything with him, and it breaks my heart to see him in pain.i have become pretty immune to it most of the time, but i really dont know how i can cope with it and im really really scared. i dont want him to suffer anymore and i just want him tl live a long and healthy life. if anybody knows anybody that somehow knows something that can really help him with pain or to shrink it or anything please let me know.i know its really unlikely but i want to try. i just needed to get all this off my chest<3

  • Hi there ...

    So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment ... esp at your age ... that must be so hard ....

    If you go on Marie Currie home page.... they are there for families in your position ... ask them if there's somewhere you can go, or talk to .. I know theres a help line for young ones who are going through this with a parent ... l think its called "click sargent "  i will have a look and see if im right .. if anyone reads this and knows the name please help ..  but talk to marie curie, tell them about your dads pain .. as it should be monitored and him kept relativity pain free ... 

    Has your dad got a nurse comming round ... if not ask your G P for help with him ... and tell them your dads in pain too ..

    You know the way to help you through this is to share feelings and tears with your mum .. your both trying to be brave for the other one ... when that happens, it's too much to bear, and someone will crack .. it's o.k to admit your scared .. and your mum to .. but if you could both listen to the other ... and then you can help each other through .. even if you tell her, you know she's crying, and tell her it's o.k ... it's even o.k to feel angry ... but please ask Marie Currie for help for all of you ..

    Let me know how it goes ... always here if you want a chat, or vent ... sending you all a vertual hug.... Chrissie x

  • Hi, I'm sorry that you are going through this.  Cancer is so cruel.  If you contact Macmillan they also have support for under 18's that can be arranged for you.  They and St Barnabas have been a brilliant support for my family. X