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Hey,

Recently my mum has been diagnosed with cancer.

She is refusing to do chemo, and she won't listen to anyone. Impossible to change her mind. 

I can't cope and think about it, I can't even imagine losing her one day.

My dad passed away to cancer as well. 

I have no brothers no sisters. No grandparents. No family. Not a lot of friends. No one. She is the only thing I've got. How can I make myself feel better. What can I do.

I won't be able to survive if the worst happens.

I can't just stop thinking about it. I've got a headache 24/7 and haven't got any more tears in me. 

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    Hi there ...

    So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment.... life and cancer can be so crule ..  it must be extra hard not having any other family ...

    I can empathise why your mum doesn't want treatment, after seeing your dad go through it ...  if I was you, I'd make the most of every day with your mum... you don't say what cancer she has ... as there's so many different ones ... but as hard as it is, it has to be her decision .. 

    McMillan have people there you can chat to , or Marie Currie,  go on their home page, think Marie Currie could be the best one as they are there for patients like your mum, and their families ... tell them your on your own, maybe they can chat to you, and give you someone who can at least support you ...

    I'm so sorry, I wish I could help more .. but you can always put your feeling on here ... as we all know how cancer can effect us ... sending you a vertual hug... Chrissie xx

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    Hi

    My mum was diagnosed with cancer in February, and has had her op and just started her chemo last week. I find it really difficult to cope with everything esp with covid etc. I'm an only child as well but luckily have my cousin who is like my sister, dad and aunt. I can't imagine how you must feel. Maybe she will change her mind with time or if she speaks to people who have gone through chemo. I know the list of side effects can make people really anxious. Take care. 

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    Hi Pete,

    I'm new to this site/forum. My mother has many symptoms of cancer and is awaiting diagnosis. I am so sorry to hear about your mothers diagnosis. 

    My mother is also my best friend. I have a sister who is disabled and she is her full time carer. My Dad is also here but you know how mothers are, they hold the family together.

    Despite not having a diagnosis, I too have been filled with anxiety, sometimes even physical pain when thinking of the worst and imagining losing her. I have a very small circle of friends and family too and above all, she is my number 1 go to person for absolutely everything. 

    I don't think I can really offer any advice as I am so new to all of this but please do feel free to send me a message if you need someone to talk to. Don't be alone. Sending love 
     

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