Hello!

I'm Hannah, I'm 23 and currently living with my boyfriend and his parents. I'm doing this without anyone knowing as I need advice for myself on what I should be doing and how I should be helping because currently I'm feeling a little bit...lost.

My boyfriends Dad got diagnosed with blood cancer a while back (this is currently all I know) and has been in and out of hospital for many months. We know when he's going on a downward spiral because he gets extremely ill, usually starting off with an infection which then gets worse as the time goes - high temperature, difficulty eating, etc. I find it hard because my Nan was in the same predicament only 2 years ago before she passed away and it's hard to see the same situation again happen to somebody else.

I know it sounds really silly but I don't know how or what I should be doing to help, if I can help. What should I be doing in this situation?  I feel so useless, specifically when they need to get the paramedics here to take him to hospital. I offer to help with packing but they get my boyfriend or his brother to do it. I also offer to help with anything round the house but his Mum says she's okay and doesn't need the help.

I do try and support them the best way I can but sometimes (if not alot of the time) I feel like it's never enough and I should be doing more but I just don't know how.

Please help,

Thank you!

Hannah