Welcome to Cancer Chat JC99 although I'm really sorry for the news you and your husband have been given. 

Many of our members have, sadly, been in this position with their loved ones so will really understand what you're going through at the moment and will hopefully offer their support and advice to you soon.

In the meantime I wanted to share some information we have on how to support someone with cancer. It has a section about taking care of yourself which I hope will provide you with the tips you're looking for so you're able to support your husband at this time.

If you have any other questions or would just like to talk things through with one of our cancer nurses then do give them a call next week. They're available on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m.

Best wishes to you both at this difficult time,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hello and welcome to our friendly forum.  My husband has been battling stage 4 lung cancer for three years and in January we found out it had gone to his liver.  This was devastating for me as I thought we had come to the end, he is just 74 years old gone March.  But he's having immunotherapy treatment and is doing well.  I have always taken this a day at a time, looking ahead spoils my day, if I'm sad he's sad so we get up and see what the day holds for us.  Our family are hundreds of miles away so we haven't seen them since Christmas and yes it's hard but we facetime and smile and stay up beat.  I try and write daily so you are welcome to join my Stay Strong thread and chat to others with me who are coping with cancer.  Keep us up to date and post if you need to.  Hope this helps a little bit, Carol x

Hello, thank you for replying to me, I am sorry it has to be under these circumstances.  We are having a good day today.  I never know how I'll feel in the morning, each day is different, but I am getting used to the news now and just counting down the days to the treatment.  We speak to our girls on facetime every day and text all the time, it's nice knowing they are there and we support each other.  It helped a lot to know you were thinking of us. Jacquie  x

Hi Jacquie, we all help each other so post again if you need more support.  A problem shared is a problem halved. Stay strong. Carol x