Hi all,
I've posted a few times about my mum (83) and her journey with Stage 4 Carcinosarcoma (www.cancerresearchuk.org/.../mum-has-carcinosarcoma-of-the-uterus) but have a specific question now, hence new post. I've searched the forum but can't see that this has been discussed.
Mum is realistically nearing end of life. She's still living at home, with a live-in carer. I live a few miles away. She is shielding because of Covid-19 and I go round a couple of times a week to wave at her through the back door. She has a multitude of issues that we are struggling to keep on top of including some dementia, undiagnosed but very evident. It's so hard when palliative care nurses and the District Nurse say they can't come and see her.
I live alone, hardly go out, maybe to the local shop once a week. What she says she wants, more than anything else, is a hug from me. She may have a few weeks/months at most to live and can't bear the idea of dying without any physical contact with her nearest and dearest. Neither can I.
I am debating going in and hugging her. I have a mask and gloves. What else can I do to minimise the risk? I would NEVER do this if she wasn't quite close to the end of her life, but the stories of people dying without having any contact with relatives are so upsetting, and she is so depressed and sad.
I'd never forgive myself if I gave it to her unwittingly, and I'd never forgive myself if she died without us ever having any physical contact ever again. Catch 22.
Is anybody else in the same position, or can put themselves in our position? I know it's a massive risk, but everything seems so hopeless.
kt
