Caring for partner

Hi all

My partner recently had cancer removed from scar tissue attached to his lung, his scan has now been pushed back to July so he is understandably worried if the cancer has spread, which we were told pre op could potentially happen. Due to corona they made the scan July instead of April. What can we do as his mind is all over the place, he can't see his children who live with his ex due to him being high risk. I'm worried if it's spread he is being delayed treatment that he might need. If he had the scan sooner and was clear it would give peace of mind in this weird time. I try to be positive for him but I worry too for his health and mind. We regularly go out for walks so he is being active and receiving counselling. 

  • Welcome to the forum Loulabella although I'm sorry that your partner's scan has been pushed back to July.

    Many of our members have also been impacted by the coronavirus pandemic so will understand what your partner is going through at the moment. Hopefully some of them will pop by soon to offer their support and advice but if you'd like to discuss this with one of our cancer nurses then do give them a call next week. They're available on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Hi there

    we are in a similat position. My partner found out his cancer had metastasised earlier in the year but he still hasn't started treatment (immunotherapy followed by chemo) due to corona. However we received a call today to say that hopefully he will start within the next three weeks. The delay has been agonising as we have two very young children and we thought his cancer had been 'cured' last year. It has also been hard not having face e-to-face consultations. Not sure why they don't do video calls.

    Obviously, as the patient it feels like every day of delay makes a massive difference to prognosis but for most cancers this isn't the case. A short delay shouldn't be too much of a problem. And anyway, there simply isn't a good solution. I know it's upsetting, but sometimes we have to realise what we can and can't control. The pandemic exists and it's having massive knock-on effects to services. I am trying to stay in the moment and not to focus on the 'what ifs' that float around my mind. 
    sending hugs