My partner is in intense pain all the time because his lung cancer has spread into the bones. Nothing seems to be working to kill the pain. Morphine is making him very ill on top of that. I don't know what to do!
Hi call Marie Currie... thought not sure they are there at week ends .. call your A and E ..tell them.. he should be having pain control .. have you got a nurse comming round ... but I'd do A and E first ... he can't go on like that .. good luck .. hold on .. don't give up .. tell them he needs help now ... that's our worst nightmare ...
unfortunately it's the weekend....thought we'd got it all sorted out on Friday but the morphine isn't working for him. I'll contact them tomorrow morning
Hi. No we don't have anyone coming round now we're in lockdown. The hospital sent us his current prescription on Friday but it's morphine and it just makes his pain worse....apparently it does with some people. It's the second lot of morphine and the nurse got cross with me when I told her it wasn't working for him, as if he's being a nuisance! It really upset me. He's supposed to be having targeted radiotherapy this coming Thursday but he can hardly move so don't see how that can happen. I haven't tried A&E because the worst nightmare would be to end up in hospital with a whole load of untested healthworkers at the moment!!
I'd get really cross with that nurse ... how dare she not help you .. I know they are under stress, but then so are you, caring for your dad ... it is not an excuse... but you could phone 111 and tell them .. I did once when I was really ill and couldn't get to Drs... they got a percrition ready at the chemist for me .. I had to wait for a g.p to get back .. but it's worth a try ...
dont let anyone bully you, or try to make you feel your being pushy or a neausance ... you calmly stand your ground ... what a horrible situation ... you could try ringing a local hospice for advice ...
I wish I had a magic wand for him... as they tell us all pain can be managed ... fingers crossed you get some help ... even if a medic can come out, to give more pain relief... I thought terminal patients had district nurses comming round ... this carona has far reaching bad outcomes ... Chrissie xx
Hello, my name is Ange and I lost my Dad to duodenal cancer on 14th November 2019. We had superb help from Dad’s local district nurses and a Macmillan nurse. I don’t know if you are fortunate to have Macmillan involved yet but I would suggest that it’s worth getting in touch with them for advice at least. My Dad was allergic to Morphine so alternatives were arranged for him. I’m so sorry to hear that you are not getting the support you and your partner so badly need. We had to be quite pushy at times and I’m sure medical people thought we were a nuisance but we did our absolute best for Dad and I have no regrets over action I had to take at times. I hope this advice helps and if you need to talk, I’m here xx
