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Stage 4 lung cancer

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My dad has been diagnosed with lung cancer that has spread to his kidney and bones. I am devastated, especially because i cant be there for him with this corona virus self isolation. Im scared that my sisters and i who no longer live at home are not going to be able to be there for him over the next few months. He has my mum, sister and brother who live at home and this gives me comfort that he has great support. Im scared that he passes away before this self isolation ends. Feel so helpless not being there. 

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    Hello  

    my husband has stage 4 lung cancer so I understand how shocking the diagnosis feels. The current situation with the Coronavirus must be aggravating your feelings as well. It's good that you are taking comfort from knowing that your Dad is not alone and has loving support at home. However it must be very frustrating for you not to be able to visit. Are you able to FaceTime, use zoom so that he can 'see you' using technology? 
    From Torty

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    Thanks for your reply Torty. Im so sorry to hear that your husband has been diagnosed with lung cancer too. How is he feeling?

    My dad isnt really one for having long conversations over the phone so dont think he'd want to face time. I feel a bit better today as i was speaking with him today through the window. He needs to lie down a lot because he had radiotherapy yesterday that is causing some pain in his back. I really want to see him more because i have a little 7 month old baby and want him to see him. So frustrating. 

     

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    I'm so glad that you got to see your Dad, even though it was through the window. There's something special about seeing someone rather than talking over the phone. It must be very frustrating for you, especially in relation to him being not being able to spend time with your baby. My husband is going on well thank you. He is receiving a targeted therapy as he has a rare lung cancer called ALK positive. I know that he does feel a bit frustrated about not being able to see his family or travel though, they live almost 3 hours away. It's tough for them isn't it?
    take care

    Torty

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    Hi, my husband has stage 4 cancer that has spread rapidly to many different areas.  It is a mad world at the moment.  When my husband received his shielding letter we had already started to shield him.  When the shielding letter came in the post it was upsetting.  We are not even allowed in the same room as him.  That ain't happening!  Our son brings us food every fortnight and has a copy of my husbands DS1500 so if he gets stopped by the police, I'm hoping they will understand.  Have they said what treatment plan they will offer your Dad? 

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