Caring for mum who has terminal cancer

HI, I need some advice and I have no idea who can help. My mum has terminal cancer and is deteriorating quickly and needing more support. She lives my dad whos is aging and possibly has the begins of dementia and my brother who is 33. My brother is trying to help as best as he can but he cannot cope. My dad cant cope with my mum. I am visiting every day and completing chores, cooking for her if necessary and making sure she has taken her meds etc. I have a family of my own 2 kids and a husband. I am trying to balance my life at the moment between the two households. Due to covid 19 my mum has been advised that hopsital and hospice is not safe enough for her to be in. I have 3 other much older brothers and sisters who are dipping in and out to help. Things at my mums and dads house is very tense and I cannot be there every moment to sort out squabbles and situations. But I want to look after my mum and I don't want her dying alone in the hospice or hopsital because no one can visit her. I also cant take my mum away from my dad. Otherwise he will deteriorate. My mum called me today saying she just wants peace and crying. I don't know what to do. How do I help my parents. 

  • Hi there ..

    What a sad situation you are in .. your being pulled in every direction , and you need to look after you too .. or you just may find, you run out of energy and can't cope ... my heart goes out to you ... 

    If you give Marie Currie a ring ... they are there Monday to Friday... they care for terminal patients and their families... so just tell them your situation, and see if they can help or advise ... the trouble right now, is everything has been cut back to cope with carona virus... but hopefully things will start to get back soon ... you deff sound like you need a break ... 

    I wish I could help you more ... Chrissie x

  • Thank you Chrissie I will look into that, xx