Looking after terminally ill

I never thought I would be sitting here writing this, I feel like my world is crumbling and it’s so lonely, made worse by the fact we are in isolation

 

my sister was diagnosed with terminal cancer a week ago, it’s very aggressive and has been given less than 3 months she is stuck in hospital, has had no visitors, not even a cuddle since being diagnosed. 

 

We are hoping she will be discharged very soon and Ive made the very easy decision to have her discharged to my house. I am a single mum to 4 children, 1 of which is an adult. Practically everyone is trying to put me off this decision saying how hard it’s going to be, I know this, it’s going to be devastating, but she’s my sister ️ It’s the last thing I can do for her and I will try my very hardest to make her comfortable and to feel loved. She will have 2 visits a day from nurses. And hopefully these restrictions will get easier and out mum can return from abroad.

i think I’m just needing someone to give me some advice, how to help my sister, are there any dos and donts, any advise is welcome as I have never had to deal with a situation like this at all. 

Thankyou

  • Hi

    Im so sorry to learn about your sister. This is going to be such a difficult time for you all. It’s so kind of you be there for her and I think you may regret if you hadn’t of offered. 

    I haven’t been in the same situation but I’m sure others on here will be able to offer some guidance.

    just make sure that you take time for you and the kids 

    x

  • Thankyou for taking time to reply,never thought I’d be having these conversation, not yet. She deteriorating rapidly and doctors have now said it’s a matter of weeks. All equipment is being delivered here tomorrow and they are hoping to get her discharged tomorrow too. They rushing it now Cos she’s soo weak x 

  • Hello

     

    A very sad situation you are in. If you are certain that you can manage to look after your sister and your three children you will probably never regret it. It sounds as though she may not have long and perhaps your children will help by sitting with her, helping with drinks and making her feel loved. In my opinion it is awful to die alone and that is happening to lots of people in hospital at present. Your sister will be with family. It may be difficult for you and the children and I am glad to hear that you will have daily support from nurses. 

     

    Good of luck in your caring. You will know that you did the best you could for your sister and maybe your example will show your children how important kindness is when we really need help.

     

    Best wishes

    Ronnie