Stressed by lockdown

I am struggling with caring for my recently diagnosed husband (metastatic bowel cancer), plus 2 children aged 9 and 7 during the lockdown. I am also trying to juggle a full time job as a teacher, working from home and giving feedback to students / setting work via the Internet.

This is my first time posting- I feel very very isolated, because I am trying to teach the kids, doing everything I can to make my husband comfortable until chemo starts next week - but he is so very weak and it's heartbreaking. 
 I don't really know what I want in terms of advice - I suppose just to know that there are other people out there going through the same thing. How is everyone else coping with being isolated from the people that they would normally use as a support network?

  • Hi heron 25, what a horrible stressful time you must be having with all of this in your life.  I know my daughter is stressed with the children home, husband working from home and not being able to see her Dad who has lung cancer.  So it must be even harder when it's your husband.  The best thing that has got us through is to take it an hour at a time, my youngest daughter who works full time, now from home was finding it hard as well, Harry is 9 and an only child and her husband runs his own company, she has now done a white board and added different coloured post it notes for each person showing what they have been allocated to do that day, then ticking it off as they do it, I'm sure as a teacher you are organised at school, put that into practice at home now.  If hubby can help then let him, get him to read a story or check the homework, makes meals easy everyone doesn't need a big meal when you are stuck at home.  You will get through this but it will be hard, I know that, so you need time to de stress as well, have a bath, lock the door and tell them to leave you alone for half an hour, you'll be amazed how much children can help when they need to.  I hope this just helps a little bit, there is always someone on here who will talk to you.  Virtual hugs your way, you need them!  Carol x

  • Dear Heron25,

    or should I say dear superwoman! You have a hell of a lot to deal with at the moment. Is there anyone who is completely self isolating (not going out at all) that can come and stay with you to help with the children?

    charlotte xxx