Caring for older person with colorectal cancer

Hi everyone, this is my first post and I'm looking for some advice please! My daughter is caring for a family member in his home. He is in his 80s and had an operation to remove a tumour in his colon 2.5 weeks ago. The cancer has spread to his liver. He doesn't have a stoma. He was previously in good health, fit and physically and mentally active. With the quarrantine in force, she's feeling isolated, inexperienced and lacking in info! She's working from home while looking after him, and I'm doing my best to support her from a distance with moral support and (hopefully) useful information.

She'd like to have some idea of the recovery process - what to expect. I think they are both feeling a bit demoralised as he is still very weak and tired, and also a bit mentally fuddled. Is taking codeine and paracetamol for the pain. She's apart from her partner and 1-year old child, who live in another part of the UK, and was hoping to get home by Friday! She's just realising that this may not be possible. Social services are visiting this afternoon to discuss home care, which will probably be two visits a day, morning and evening.
Any advice would be very welcome! Then I can pass it on to her when we next talk. Thanks in advance!

 

  • Hello Mirandat

    I'm sorry to hear about the situation for your daughter and family member. It's understandable that she is feeling somewhat alone in dealing with things but I hope that the meeting with the Social Services team was productive. 

    Do you know if your family member was allocated a specialist nurse at the hospital? They would be the best person for your daughter to get in touch with to discuss her questions and to get some advice. 

    If not then I'd certainly suggest she gives our team of nurses a call. I'm sure that they will be able to offer some support and advice. They are available Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm on 0808 800 4040. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator

  • Thanks for the helpful advice! The carers are niw in place, a neighbour is taking care of shopping and my daughter has managed to go home for a few days. Things seem to be more under control, at least in the short term!