Feeling so selfish

Hi all,

my wonderful husband (of 10days) was diagnosed with Chronic Lymphocytic leukaemia stage 0 in November. Completely out of the blue. Up until then he was a big strong fighting fit man with an good appetite and a sweet tooth. Since Xmas he is a different man.  Too many symptoms to list but he is not well, weak and had lost over 8kg. His consultant and gp think there is something else going on as his leukaemia is stable but due to the Coronavius crisis we are unable to get to the bottom of what is wrong. I am doing my absolute best to support him in every way I can but am struggling to hide my own fears that I may lose this amazing man I waited so long to find. I feel so guilty for thinking about myself when I am so lucky to have good health but my heart is breaking at not being able to help him. We have wonderful friends and family but I can’t bring myself to discuss how I feel with them and to let anyone know how worried I am. I feel so scared and alone .

  • You sound far from selfish, Debbie. Far from it. 
    This is a terrible situation...you're quite entitled to feel scared. Fear is quite a normal reaction when we are told a loved one has cancer. It's allowed. 
     

    I understand how worrying this is for you. A little different for me in that it was my mum who had cancer. But...I know too well the feelings of terror and, also - warning to put on a brave face in front of others. 
     

    Perhaps if you don't feel like confiding in anyone close to you, you can join in some of the forums around this site or update your thoughts/feelings on this thread. Sadly, there are many in the same position xx 

    I am wishing you a peaceful night xx