Hi, sorry that you are in this position, I have asked my husband who has terminal cancer, but having a good day, and has been in the same position with me, he calls it fussing. His answer to help you was let him lead you, wait for him to say he is hungry and then you can say oh what would you like. I know how hard it is and I am always trying to make sure he is well hydrated especially after chemo when he is violently sick, a lot. Also he will be suffering from depression and who wouldn't in his/their shoes. The only other thing I can offer you is sending love and virtual hugs xxxChris