Hi there I'm new to the forum
I'm just looking for some advice from people who have been in the same situation as me. Now my ex partner of 5yrs was dignoised with testicular cancer, with spreading to his lymph nodes & lungs in September 2018.
He went through 6 rounds of chemotherapy & 8hr major surgery. I became a full time carer all throughout his treatment, had sleepless nights bedside him in hospital. My partner was only 27 at the time and I was 24. Throughout his treatment my partner, appreciated my help so much and was always prasing to other people, how he couldn't of done it without me. We both had other mental health issues due to his illness that we managed to get back on track for.
As of September 2019 my partner was told he was free from cancer which was a huge sigh of relief! We never thought we'd see this day coming! After a few months however I noticed a change in my partners attitude towards myself but not other people. He has become, more angry in himself, keeping his feelings away from me, having a rude manner towards me. I kept telling myself that it's all his treatment that has made him feel this way, so I tried to oversee this & carry on with life as normal as possible.
He recently started a new job 2 weeks ago after nearly 2yrs off work. Everyday he comes in unhappy, unhappy with work and he says unhappy with life in general. As of a few days ago he told me he wanted to end the relationship for good, which came as a massive shock to me, and told me to move out of our family home. He has also turned his whole family against me, which was never unlike him before he was diagnosed.
I did try and ask him questions, to see if I could get him any help but he wouldn't tell me anything. It's like he's become a completely different human to when I first met him. I wanted to get an understanding, of what cancer has done to him to try and save the relationship. I just feel like he has made the wrong decision, and I'm concerned he's depressed due to so many changes in his life?
He won't let me see him anymore but I'm still deeply concerned about his wellbeing and mental health from this. It's such a shame it's come to this situation as my ex partner used to be such a lovely person.
