Hello Karen_r, 

I just wanted to warmly welcome you to the forum. I hope you won't mind but I have added a few words to your title describing your circumstances to give your thread increased visibility. I am so sorry to hear about your partner and I hope that you will hear from others here who have also chosen to bring their terminally ill loved one home. We have some information on this page on choosing where to die which will hopefully be helpful to you. It's also important when looking after a loved one with cancer to find a little bit of time to breathe and look after yourself, to care for the carer. You can read more about this here. 

CarersUK might also be a good resource for you to connect with other carers who may have some good tips for you to help a terminally ill loved one who is struggling to stay upbeat. 

This must be an incredibly hard time for you and I just wanted you to know we are all here for you if you need to talk. 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hello Karen,

I would like to say hello and welcome but sorry that you find yourself here.

My late husband wanted to spend his last days at home and I remember thinking to myself thhat I didn't think I would be able to cope but I managed to carry out his wishes. 

It wasn't easy and it is hard to watch a loved one suffering and knowing that whatever we do it is not going to change the outcome.

Our journey was 6 months and I have to say that we went through a lot of different emotions just all part of this horrible disease.

Sending my best wishes to you and your partner.

Lynne.

Oh thank you,  that's exactly how I feel I have to try and carry out his wishes

its so comforting to know there's others who have went through this and managed to come out the other side

 thanks for posting